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Yesterday morning I had a consultation with rabbinical graduate from England who had underwent tremendous hardship over the past year The tone of his voice made it clear that he was on edge. At one point he snapped at me “can you just tell me what I should do to make my resume better?”

Later that evening I attended a workshop given by Shakti Gawain. For those of you who unfamiliar with her name, Shakti Gawain is a pioneer in the field of self-help and author of the Creative Visualization, the book that launched the Law of Attraction movement. Her writing has both comforted and taught me about myself during difficult times. As a result I have learned to trust my intuition and to become a loving wife, family member, friend and supportive. effective career coach.

The contrast between the morning and evening events motivated me to share my thoughts and insights about fear and the job search.The most important thing to know about fear (or any other difficult feelings) is these are normal emotions that need to be expressed. Fear alerts you to potential danger. What you do with your feeling is within your control.

If you who have relocated from another county and find yourself suddenly unemployed you may experience intense emotions due to factors such as being transferred and then let go or not being able to be with family and friends during this difficult time.

Like my friend the rabbi who incidentally sent me an email to apologize, you might take you anger out on those who reach out to help you or you might sink into a state of despair, the other side of anger. You may become pushy and nearly stalk hiring managers, recruiters, or anyone who may know of a job for you.

Regardless of how angry or upset you are, at some point you will have to come to accept your circumstances and recognize you have the power change that. Incidentally, I have noticed the people who do this with grace find employment faster than those who get stuck in their emotions.

So how do you step out of your funk? The answers may sound silly, too easy, or even Polyannaish. However, I promise you will get the results you either want or need.

If work does not come as quickly as you’d like embrace the opportunity to look inside yourself and see what needs to be done. The following combines ideas that were shared by Shakti Gawain and what I have found to be true for other who have been there:

1. We all create our own experience of reality, what is yours?
2. The more conscious you can be about the process the better you will become at making it happen.
3. Imagine what you want as if it were already there.
4. Use affirmations such as “I am gainfully employed” “I love my work” or “I am an excellent Project Manager and I am handsomely rewarded for my work.”
5. Emotions cannot be controlled. Find a safe place where you can feel your feelings. If you think you are in danger of hurting yourself or have any sign of clinical depression get professional help immediately.
6. Recognize and acknowledge your inner critic / demon.
7. Reassure your inner critic / demon that things will be fine. He / she is a the young child in you who wants to be heard, loved and cared for by you.
8. Tap into your inner wisdom. What advice would you give to a friend? Give it to yourself.
9. Stick with the winners, these are the people who are where you want to be. Ask them for advice such as what they did to achieve their goals.
10. Stay positive. Ask for Help. Read self help books, get a job search buddy, attend workshops that inspire you, find a coach or mentor to help you develop the skills and tools you need to be successful in your job search.

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